Something's missing in jet-setter romance

DEAR AMY: I met a man online seven years ago. We're both divorced and I have a teenager. We live on different continents and get to see each other about four times a year. About two years ago, I told him that I was finding it hard to deal with the traveling and the goodbyes, but I realized that I wasn't ready to give up on the relationship. We agreed that we would wait until my child's education isfinished in three years to make a decision about our future. When I recently mentioned this conversation, he didn't recall it. When I'm with him he is attentive but frequently has to go off "to make a quick call." He recently told me that he would be too busy to talk to me for more than a week. I think he was with someone else. He doesn't like to talk about the future. I'm not sure if his feelings run deeply enough. We always meet at different places around the world, but I've never been invited to his house (he has been to mine). He recently told me that he has slept with other women during the time we have been together. I haven't been with anyone else in that time and am wondering whether it is worth the wait. Am I missing out on the possibility of meeting someone who really does see a future with me?UnsureDEAR UNSURE: Your guy has slept with other women since being with you, and you should realize there is a high likelihood he is hiding relationships -- perhaps a whole family -- from you.

He is demonstrating through his words and actions that he has no intention of making this relationship permanent.

If you were satisfied with the glacial progress and uncertain future of this relationship and able to enjoy it as it is, then, by all means, you should keep on truckin'.

You obviously are in need of answers, and so you should take your guy's lack of answers as an answer. It's time to find someone closer to home.