What's the best way to get my man back?

DEAR READERS: I'm marking my 10-year anniversary of writing the "Ask Amy" column by rerunning some of my favorite Q&A's from a decade of advice.

DEAR AMY: My guy just broke up with me, and I'm frantic. What's the best way to get him back?Broken HeartedDEAR BROKEN: The only method I know for sure is to stop caring. Once you really stop caring, they have a way of coming back. By then, of course . . . you don't care. (2003)

DEAR AMY: I am 50 and dating again -- whew! It's fun, but who pays is so confusing. He'll ask me for ideas about what we can do on dates, and I'm afraid to make suggestions for fear he'll think I see him only as a wallet. The reality is, he makes far more money than I do -- I work part-time -- and I can't afford much more than a movie every now and then. How do others re-entering the dating scene handle this?CathleenDEAR CATHLEEN: Very badly, mostly. A basic guideline is that whoever does the inviting should pay for the date, and if your guy is asking for suggestions, it's a good idea to keep those suggestions modest.

You can reciprocate with the occasional movie date, inexpensive visits to landmarks, museums and galleries, and your homemade lasagna.

Although this "who pays for the date" issue is still fluid with your guy, I hope you'll muster up the courage to say to him, "Whew, this is fun, but who pays is so confusing! How do you feel about it?" He may confess that he has the same questions you have.

The beauty of a new relationship is that you get to make up new "rules" as you go. As long as you are in basic agreement, you can concentrate on having a good time, instead of worrying about who picks up the tab. (2004)