Who should replace dog killed by car?

DEAR AMY: My wife and I were away on vacation a few months ago and while we were gone her parents offered to "dog-sit" for our 2-year-old black Lab. While they were watching him, the front door was left open during the day so he got out and unfortunately was killed by a car. My wife and I were devastated. Her parents were, of course, very sorry about the whole thing and apologized as much as anyone could. Months later my wife is still very saddened by the loss to the point of tears every time she sees another couple with a dog. Even commercials featuring a happy family and a dog make her sad. I feel the only way for her to get better is to get a new dog. However, money is suddenly tight, as I have had to take a pay cut due to being let go from work two months ago. Puppies can be very expensive after all the adoption fees and vaccines. Do you think I should approach her parents to help us pay for a new dog since it was under their watch that our dog was killed? I feel weird. Is it appropriate to ask them to "replace" our dog, like he was an object. How should I handle this?Kyle

DEAR KYLE: You shouldn't get a dog until you know your wife is ready for and wants one - and until you can afford one without outside help.

As I write this, my own family's young black Lab is recuperating from a collision with a car. Accidents happen, and the result is heartbreaking and very expensive.

If you accepted money from your in-laws to pay for a puppy and this dog was injured or became ill under your watch, could you afford treatment, or would the in-laws be on the hook for those expenses?

Consider adopting an adult dog that would be less rambunctious, accident-prone and expensive than a puppy. You and your wife might also be ideal temporary foster parents for an animal (ask your local shelter about its foster parent program).